Beat the Imposter in you

12 Apr

Hello to another week & it’s the middle of April already!  
Recognise this situation ….?

You’re in a meeting with colleagues at work, college or university. Your mind is wandering. You notice the apparent confidence of your colleagues as they suggest clever ‘I wish I’d thought of that’ ideas and how they always seem to ask the the right questions. Read more

FOMO your way out of that

16 Feb

FOMO

 

You know the feeling only too well, don’t you? The smallest of things causing you the maximum stress: an untidy room, lost car keys, the cat being sick at 3am.Read more

The age of envy … don’t be

12 Oct

There’s something very familiar about that sinking, heavy feeling that results from reading a Facebook post, an email or a text from someone you know who’s life appears fun, perfect almost. 

Recognise this? Feel like your life is unfulfilled and lagging behind your school chum or work colleague who has a career to die for? Your friends are out shopping in Marylebone High Street or London cocktail bars? Of course we have. We, because I’m like you. Frustrated, angry almost. But are things as they seem?

None of us wish our friends and colleagues who appear to be ‘doing better’ any ill-will but we have to ask ourselves, what’s that about and how can I use it?

What I mean is, why does that email or FB post trigger this response?

I believe the explanation is two-fold: there’s a good sprinkling of social proof exaggeration going on: we are primed to be successful in order to be accepted in our social circles, meaning if we don’t come across as successful or settling for a life of mediocrity, then we’re not ‘worth’ knowing.Read more